“You don’t really have 7 kids, do you?!”
Yep, we sure do. When Karen and I married in 1980, having seven children was not the plan. Actually, there was no plan.
It’s been a wonderful ride, though, and with “the kids” now 36-years-old down to 21, we’ve learned a bunch. In fact, we’ve even formed some firm opinions. ?
What We Have Learned About Parenting
One steadfast belief we hold is this: STRONG parenting beats WEAK parenting.
Our parenting years began in 1983 and have coincided with a world of change in the world. Everything from “participation trophies” to increased entitlement and victim thinking to college-age students needing “safe spaces” so they’re not offended. There’s simply been a ton of societal change.
Much of it working against parents who want to raise accountable kids.
Children have always needed strong parenting, but more than ever, modern-day moms and dads are the salmon swimming upstream against a cultural current that fails to promote the core tenet of the QBQ! book:
So, when Penguin Random House (publisher of our books) asked Karen and me to create a parenting book based on the principle of Personal Accountability, we were thrilled.
What We Can Share With You
Recently, Sally submitted this question on RAK Facebook:
“Our 12-yr-old daughter is challenging us big time. No matter what we do, she continues to rebel and not listen to us. I’m not sure what we’re doing wrong. Can you give us any help?”
Based on Mom’s question, we shared the material below. This might not apply for you right now, but we suggest keeping it handy just in case … or share this blog with someone who needs it today!
5 Cs of Strong Parenting
1. CLARIFY: Ensure your child knows the specific unacceptable behavior that concerns you which must cease. Leave NO doubt.
2. CONSEQUENCES: Define in YOUR mind the action you will engage in—what you plan to do and enforce if/when your child goes off-track.
3. COMMUNICATE: Make certain the child understands the consequences that WILL BE enacted if s/he engages in the clearly identified unacceptable behavior.
4. COURAGE: Possess and show the strength and nerve to follow through to implement the consequences—even if/when INCONVENIENT for you!
5. CONSISTENCY: Be boringly predictable so the child knows you will absolutely NOT WAIVER and will always do what you say you’ll do.
We trust you will implement the “5 Cs” where and when you need them as you build responsible children. Remember, strong parenting beats weak parenting …
Every. Single. Time.
So, which of our “5 Cs” do you need to work on most? Comment away!
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