Learning Makes For Outstanding Relationships

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John (22), Karen (19) on 6/21/80. John’s dad, Pastor Jimmy Miller, officiates.

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The Challenge Of Relationships

After 40+ years of marriage, Karen and I understand our relational struggles better than ever. One of those challenges is I’m “harder” on people than she is. In her mind, sometimes too much so.

You see, in Myers-Briggs language, she’s a Feeler, I’m a Thinker. If you know the Enneagram and its nine personality types, Karen’s a 2, I’m an 8. The bottom line is she spends 85% of her time thinking about relationships. And … I don’t.

We see the world differently because we’re very different.

One Story About Us

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Be Like Humble Servant, Captain Terry!

One of our favorite stories ever. Enjoy, share! John and Kristin

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I arrived at the Cleveland airport for my flight feeling dread. I had to get to Portland, Oregon that night, and I was taking the last flight west. On top of that, I had to connect through the always chaotic O’Hare International Airport.

We pulled away from the gate on time, but then a “ground hold” happened. Going nowhere, my worry meter kicked in.

Meanwhile, I was sitting next to a United Airlines pilot — Captain Terry Callaghan — who was catching a ride to O’Hare to pilot a flight to Germany. Airline pilots operate in a hierarchical, seniority-based system, and only the most senior pilots fly the foreign routes. Add that to his captain’s hat and distinguished gray hair, and I knew he was an experienced professional. He was able to explain the reasons behind our delay, which helped a little, but I still needed to be in Portland that night — and we were losing precious minutes fast.

We finally took off …

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Leadership: 6 Reasons We Say Too Much

Early in the COVID-19 days, my wise wife, Karen, said this could really hurt our son’s business. Michael and his wife, Casey, perform wedding videography and photography.

Have you heard the trendy phrase “gig economy”? Well, Sun Prairie Films of Colorado couldn’t be more closely tied to the world of gigs. All revenue comes from events, group celebrations, and gatherings of lots of people.

I feared Karen was right, but I responded, “Probably, but let’s not say that to them now. It won’t help to predict doom and gloom when we don’t know.” Karen agreed.

Sadly, she was spot on—Sun Prairie Films revenue eventually shut off like a faucet.

Leadership Lesson Learned

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Never Forget: Learning Equals Change

enneagram, myers briggs, mbti, qbqThere’s a movement toward greater self-awareness by understanding one’s personality. In general, this is healthy and good — but is it making a difference?

My wife, Karen, and I have been reading The Road Back to You to learn about the Enneagram, a personality-type system that can lead to self-discovery and greater understanding. Doing so has generated a lot of conversation. From these chats, I have a thought to share that I’ll set up with a key passage from the QBQ! book.

Excerpted from Ch. 37 titled, “We Buy Too Many Books”

We attend too many seminars. We take too many classes. We buy too many books. We listen to too many podcasts. We engage in too much training.

Yes, it’s all a waste! A waste, that is, if we’re unclear on what learning really is. Learning is not attending, listening, or reading. Nor is it merely gaining knowledge. Learning is really about translating knowing what to do into doing what we know. In other words, it’s about changing.

Never forget: Learning equals change. If we haven’t changed we haven’t learned.

Now that thought …

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Accountable Thinking: Choosing Thankfulness Even In Pet Loss

On Tuesday 9/18/18, we buried “Nug the Pug.” She was only 9 years old. Surreal and surprisingly painful, I miss her terribly. In fact, in a text to a daughter who checked on Dad, I responded, “I can’t find Nugget anywhere, but I see her everywhere.” ?

A week later, in my final Denver Rescue Mission board meeting (my 5-year director stint is up), I shared a message with the group in the photo below. These are wise, Godly, successful people who are committed to helping the homeless of Colorado. They are bankers, CPAs, pastors, executives, and even another professional speaker.
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Discover 5 Areas of Life Where Stability Leads to Greater Energy

ALERT!!! Amazon has a terrific price right now on Raising Accountable Kids!

My son-in-law, Justin, showed me the new race car track he’d bought his two-year-old son, Wyatt.

As Justin and I were playing with it (boys will be boys, ‘ya know) the little car headed toward a bend. At the curve, the track wobbled so much it caused the car to slow down and just … fall to the carpet.

As Justin reached over to tighten a supporting track leg, something he’d clearly done before, he made this offhand comment:

“When the track’s not stable, the car loses energy.”

And I thought …

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Teamwork: No Cool Kids, Every Player Counts

I’ve always loved this question: “What’s the most important leg of a 3-legged stool?” The answer is, of course, obvious.

How about this question, though: “Who’s the most important member of a team?” Isn’t the answer also—all of them?

I’ve had some Big Bad Voodoo Daddy music for years and often jump right into it when exercising. Today, though, I decided to watch this terrific group here:

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Humility: We Know It When We See (and Feel) It!

In this recent blog, we asked you to watch the video and tell us how many languages the QBQ! book is published in. Hundreds of you got it right. The answer is … 25! The winner of this drawing (5 autographed titles) is … well, we just emailed that person. Is it you?

When an Aaron Judge comes along, we’re spellbound.

That is if we know who Aaron Judge is.

A 25-year-old rookie right-fielder with the New York Yankees—a team known for producing “I’m the straw that stirs the drink” characters—Judge has taken the 2017 Major League Baseball world by storm.

And I’m not talking about his stats (current MLB home run leader), which are outstanding …

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