Amanda’s Place – Office Depot Store #2657
After reading her Office Depot “Store Manager” badge, I asked the delightful young woman, “Really? The top top manager?”
Amanda replied, “Yep, that’s me.”
“You’re not the weekend manager?”
“Nope. I really am the Store Manager.”
Sincerely surprised, I jested, “Wow, the GM of an Office Depot at 29.”
She corrected me …
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If only I was taller I could reach that cupboard above the fridge!
At 5 1/2 feet, “If only I was taller!” could be a frequent lament for me. But since it’s something I can’t change, I can get around this limitation by grabbing a nearby stool or chair.
Bemoaning, griping, and complaining won’t add a single inch to my stature.
Not to mention any joy to my life.
I also used to whine, “If only I was thinner!” Of course, this was something I could change so … I lost weight.
And this:
“If only my mom hadn’t died when I was a teen.”
No fixing that one.
There are three ways to handle an If Only:
1. Find a workaround (the handy stool)
2. Solve it (walk more, eat less)
3. Let. It. Go. (grieve and move on)
Left unattended, any and all If Onlys waste time, talent, and energy.
Agreed?
Yet, they’re so common. Here are 17 If Onlys:
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A very fine line exists between humility and haughtiness.
I recently posted this picture of Central Park on our QBQ! Facebook page and wrote this:
Not a bad way to spend a morning, walking Central Park. In Manhattan to teach QBQ! at NBC at “30 Rock” Mon morn.
I knew from experience that posting where I was and why I was there was risky. In 1996, as a young speaker, I was hired to present on the same platform as Lou Holtz, the renowned Notre Dame football coach. Totally excited and enthused, I faxed—yes, faxed—an announcement to my clients.
The next day, a training manager told me that her VP of Sales boss had privately remarked, “There goes Miller grandstanding.”
Ouch.
I suppose I should’ve known better since I’d been taught better …
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“Victim thinking” happens, and it looks a lot like this:
And this—victim thinking taken one step further:
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The photo above is of the actual shirt I wore when officiating high school wrestling matches in the Southern Tier of New York State from 1978-1980. As a Cornell student, it was a fun and meaningful way to make money. Recently discovering it, I am reminded daily of what my dad taught me—and many others—about personal accountability. An idea so powerful it became a chapter in QBQ! The Question Behind the Question.
With NFL playoff football ahead, this message couldn’t be more timely. So, share on!
“Beat the Ref” (Ch. 16 of QBQ!)
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Here are 13 questions that challenge me to think hard, which can lead to learning, growth, and change. Each laced with an underlying QBQ! book message of PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY, these questions can help to make 2016 outstanding!
1. In 2015, what did I learn about myself that helped me mature?
2. What relationship did I make better and what relationship must I strive to improve?
3. How good am I at helping others feel special and who needs more of this from me?
4. When do I let victim thinking into my life and what are the consequences?
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Skimming the internet, I stopped on a parenting article which began with a fairly common statement: “Parenting is one of the toughest jobs around.”
Karen and I understand that many will defend this thought—vigorously.
But what causes moms and dads to say it? Parenting is a job we chose. It’s a job we asked for. It’s the job we sought. For many, it’s the job they love, knowing it’s THE greatest opportunity to leave a legacy.
Yet, so often parents seem to need to yell, “PARENTING IS HARD WORK!!!” But …
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Meet “Wizard the Lizard,” an Australian Red Ackie Monitor. Having him as part of my reptile collection has reminded me why it is so easy for humans to avoid PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY.
Wizard is my first Ackie. After he arrived from a Las Vegas reptile store, I learned online that good Ackie care involves keeping their environment moist and hot. When kept dry and cool, there is a permanent consequence:
Their toes fall off—forever. 🙁
So, a little worried I’d get busy and distracted and do it wrong, I worked hard keeping Wizard warm and wet.
I never did count his toes when I got him, though.
Two weeks into owning him, as he relaxed on his fav log, I noticed something …
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A mentor of mine—W.Steven Brown—taught me a goal-setting concept that would challenge the modern-day over-achiever.
A true goal is not the mountain I hope to climb, an image of a new Mercedes on my fridge, or the weight I claim I’ll lose. We say those are goals, but they’re not.
A real goal is this:
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The holidays are a special time … until they’re not. They can be quickly ruined when we choose to engage in stress-inducing behaviors. So, this year, let’s each commit to not serving up this joy-killing dish!
Recipe for Holiday Stress: 21 Ingredients to Avoid!
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