What works for a Denver backyard, though, doesn’t work for people. Being perceived as fake is not admired much.
We’ve all heard “say what you mean and mean what you say.” Good advice. Years ago, I was struggling to ask a client a question when she wisely advised, “Just say it the way you’re thinking it, John.” Excellent counsel.
Being authentic isn’t easy. We don’t want to dump our problems, troubles, and innermost thoughts on others, right? Yet we do want to be genuine, relatable, and real.
It’s a conundrum.
Recently, we took a survey using this question: “What is the #1 characteristic of leadership?”—and INTEGRITY became a theme. In QBQ! The Question Behind the Question, we define INTEGRITY this way:
Being what I say I am by acting in accordance with my words.
That’s exactly how leaders lead at work and home—and it’s this question (called a “QBQ”) that brings authenticity, genuineness, and INTEGRITY to life: “How can I practice the principles I say I believe in?”
And just to be clear, that powerful, accountable question is NOT for my boss, co-workers, friends, neighbors, spouse—or Donald Trump.
It is a question for … me.
In light of the QBQ! definition of INTEGRITY, how do you feel you’re doing in this area?