Are you into labels?
“I’m having a lousy day” has become, “I’m suffering from … anxiety.”
“I need to work on concentrating, being less distracted”—a critical life skill—has morphed into, “My Adult ADHD prevents me from putting my phone down when with people!”
Have these labels become our … excuses?
Disclaimer: Yes, humans can suffer from certain conditions. Yet, when we apply broad labels for our behaviors, it’s like, “Well, this is beyond my control and there’s no fighting it.” Or …
I. Can’t. Change.
Take depression—a real physiological, psychological state professionals can diagnose and treat. But now “I’m disappointed I lost the sale” “I feel hurt by the actions of a friend” or “I’m frustrated about my career” becomes … I’m depressed.
Bluntly, employer organizations have promoted much of this by converting time off to “mental health days.” 😬
Rather than assigning labels, would it be better to acknowledge feeling frustrated, angry, hurt, fearful, etc. and pinpoint specifically what’s driving those emotions? Then ask these QBQs (accountable questions tutorial):
“What can I do to resolve this problem?”
“How can I move forward from here?”
“What can I do to change me today?”
Now that’s good mental health. 👏🏻