Entitlement thinking … it’s not necessarily a new phenomenon, and yet, it seems to be running rampant in our society. Or, to be more precise, in me.
I’m shocked at how often I find myself succumbing to the temptation to wallow in a victim mindset. Why? Because I was raised in a family that taught me to avoid it, and I work for a company that teaches others how to recognize and run from it! This shows just how easy it is to fall into the trap of entitlement—and just how needed The Question Behind the Question (QBQ) is, since it’s a tool that helps us eliminate entitlement thinking by asking better questions.
Let me share some examples of lousy questions from my life recently:
“When is someone going to teach me how to use WordPress?”
“Why don’t the 10 sit-ups a week I do make any difference?”
“Who’s going to step up to mentor me in this phase of life?”
Instead of challenging myself to takes risks, plunge ahead, seek help, or enjoy life, these questions, all in their own way, lead me to victim and entitlement thinking. And away from personal accountability.
Here are five quick QBQs to eliminate entitlement thinking:
- What can I do to express gratitude?
- How can I invest in myself?
- How can I better serve those around me?
- What can I change about myself to be more effective?
- How can I make sure I’m invaluable in my place of work?
Employ these five QBQs and watch the entitlement thinking melt away!
Questions for discussion:
What victim oriented questions have I been asking lately?
Where has entitlement thinking crept into my life?
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