Recently, a person’s sarcastic, harsh words wounded me. Key people in my life were indignant for me and encouraged me to respond.
Trust me, I’ve never shied away from “retaliating.” On this day, though, I chose to not be the guy my dad often railed against:
I have been the hothead, returning fire, fighting back, and defending swiftly and vigorously. However, as a friend named Beth said, reacting from hurt only begets hurt. Waiting, discerning, and forming a thoughtful response — or never responding — is better.
At 61, I finally possess a pinch of patience, a dash of restraint, and a dollop of circumspection — a recipe for maturity … and wisdom. The QBQ! book:
What we learn after we know it all.
There’s great “power” in not responding. That power comes from supplanting strife, drama, and tension with joy, energy, and productivity. Not responding enables me to move on.
It also eliminates the need to hunker down waiting for the other party’s retaliatory strike. Been there, done that. Ugh.
When I speak, I tell audiences, “Great blessing is heaped upon us when we say nothing.” It feels good to experience the validity of that statement.
So, no more “hotheading” for me. How about you?