We’ll get to our list, but first …
Someone asked me recently, “John, how do you decide what to write about?” Well, I write about stuff that—
Excites me – Such as exceptional customer service and people management. This is the basis for the Outstanding! book. Have a copy yet?
Fascinates me – Such as how and why some people/organizations succeed when others in the same marketplace with the same opportunity don’t.
Angers me – Such as politicians who work to divide our country by persuading groups of people to believe they are victims, mostly to win votes. I don’t do well with pity parties, yours or mine. Sorry. 🙂
So in this QBQ! QuickNote, we’ll deal with the concept of Victim Thinking, which simply makes me mad—especially when I suffer from it.
Honestly, I’ve been railing and ranting against Victim Thinking for years, as well as its first cousin, Entitlement Thinking. But to only rail and rant doesn’t help anyone. I can’t cure myself when I don’t know what ails me, right?
So let’s get specific …
What exactly does Victim Thinking look like? What are its symptoms? How does one know he or she is suffering from this terrible affliction?
And, do we know the answer to this critical question?
When I play the victim, who am I serving?
Answer: No one. Not even myself.
Now that we agree Victim Thinking stinks, here’s our list …
13 Symptoms of Victim Thinking
1. I anger quickly and forgive slowly.
2. I allow words to easily offend me.
3. I believe the success/wealth of others is not deserved.
4. I blame everyone but myself (and make excuses) when I fail.
5. I complain about people and institutions not supporting me.
6. I see the humanness and hypocrisy of others but not my own.
7. I maintain a list of grievances for my school, church, and employer.
8. I believe I should be loved and respected before I earn love and respect.
9. I have bought the lie that “life should be fair.”
10. I have become entitled to anything beyond what I earn.
11. I am in constant fear that people and institutions are out to get me.
12. I regularly encourage others to possess/demonstrate Victim Thinking.
13. I attempt to win debates with my feelings while ignoring facts.
You don’t need to agree with this entire list, but because you do agree with the QBQ! book’s message of PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY, I ask this:
Which of our 13 Symptoms of Victim Thinking are you struggling with right now? Please share!