I avoid contentious Facebook battles because the “other side” can always respond, just like the first dog Karen and I owned. No matter how much we admonished Marmaduke for barking, he’d let out one more ear-piercing, “Woof!” Every. Single. Time.
Gone now 20 years, we still quote “Duke the Dachshund” when someone insists on getting the last word in.
Anyway, skimming a recent Facebook debate, a comment made by a dad caught my eye. In a good way, he masterfully shut down the argument.
As his debate opponent lamented what is “happening to our world” and fretted about how “the children” will be affected, this wise father calmly replied, “I don’t worry about my kids. I didn’t raise victims.“
Well done, Dad. As Shakespeare wrote, “Brevity is the soul of wit.”
Let me now say what that father said in different words:
Life is hard enough without teaching our children that life is hard.
Which leads to this question: Are we raising victims? Let’s find out with this checklist …
13 Beliefs to NOT Teach Our Children
- Life should be fair.
- I’ve been cheated.
- Everything is about me.
- I am entitled; I am owed.
- People are out to hurt me.
- It’s my right to be offended.
- My mistakes are not my fault.
- The government is my keeper.
- The wealthy didn’t earn what they have.
- Achievement is based on who you know.
- Those who don’t agree with me are “haters.”
- Success is about chance, not the choices I make.
- Having the right to do something makes it the right thing to do.
We could go on, but let’s stop at 13 and pose another question:
Are we teaching victim-itis to the next generation or teaching our children to rise above, contribute, and make a difference in the lives of others?
That is, to be victors.
We recently posted an image on our QBQ! Facebook page (join/Like us here) that displayed this content, and it truly touched our followers:
Don’t be a victim.
Don’t encourage victimhood.
Don’t condone victim thinking.
Parents, don’t raise victims.
Good stuff. But, I admit, the dad above said it with greater brevity: I didn’t raise victims.
Not only is that effective, strong, accountable parenting, it’s good living—for me. I don’t want to play the victim. Do you?
So ponder this anti-victim thinking message and leave a comment if you’d like. But know that if you disagree with anything I’ve written, I might respond with a hearty, Woof!
Simply in honor of Duke, of course. 🙂