As a kid, I read Ann Landers’ advice column daily. Didn’t we all?
From her, I learned this:
Nobody can make me angry.
Decades later, along came Chuck Swindoll who stated this:
“Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it.”
And … in the QBQ! book we preach this:
Stress is a choice.
These three teachings are worth pondering, practicing, and passing on. And in thinking about them, this little guy comes to my mind:
Groot. Yes, Groot.
Do you know Groot? If you’ve seen the movie “Guardians of the Galaxy 2,” then you know what Groot almost did.
He almost pushed the wrong button and destroyed the universe. That would not have been good.
When I saw Groot come close to pushing that bad button, what came to mind was the concept of people pushing people’s buttons. You know, irritating them. Bugging them. Getting under their skin.
Driving other people nuts!
Not that I would have any personal knowledge of this.
(Note: Do not email [email protected] to ask her about this topic. Thank you!)
Okay, fine—no need to email my wife of 37 1/2 years. I admit this now:
I talk too much in the morning, go to bed too early at night, and in between share waaaay too many opinions in waaaay too many words.
I tease a lot, too.
Yep, I own it all. As the author of QBQ! I must claim 100% personal accountability for my actions!
I’ve always wondered, given Ms. Landers’ and Rev. Swindoll’s statements, as well as the QBQ! book’s accountability message, when I let someone push my buttons—who’s accountable for that?
The person doing the pushing or the person doing the reacting?
I mean, I can prevent my buttons from being pushed, right? I can choose to ignore others, right? I am always in control of my emotions, right? I never let negative feelings get the best of me, right? 🙂
No one said it’s easy and I’m certainly not justifying irritating (or hurtful/destructive) behaviors. Yet, in the end, I come down on this side of the debate:
The person who chooses to react is more responsible than the button pusher.
What say you?
Meanwhile, with holiday gatherings upon us all, it might be wise to keep this blog handy. Who knows, your primary button pusher might be appearing soon!