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Friday, Dec. 13th @ 3:15 pm Eastern time.
Miller child number five of seven, high schooler Charlene, just landed her first job—and it’s a good one. She’s now on board with Target, an outstanding organization, as an hourly “sales floor” team member. We’re proud of her!
Yesterday, she went online to view her first paycheck:
If I recall correctly, she shrieked, “I’m rich!”
Well, no, but if you manage your money well, you may be someday—especially if you avoid asking Incorrect Questions or “IQs” (visit here for a quick tutorial) such as these:
“When will I get paid more?”
“Why shouldn’t I have everything I want?”
“Who will take care of me?”
Lousy questions like those will lead any of us into victim thinking and blame. And, the odds are good that an adult who asks them probably asked these as a child:
“When will I get a bigger allowance?”
“Why do I have to do chores?”
“Who’s going to buy me the newest ___________?” (fill in the blank!)
As parents, we touch every area of our children’s lives—physical, emotional, spiritual—but what about the financial piece? What is our accountability for sound teachings around money?
Remember the old but powerful phrase “Practice what you preach”? Isn’t it a tad hypocritical for parents who’ve done a less-than-stellar job with their finances to admonish their children to handle their dollars better? We have little right to ask IQs like, “Why did you spend all your allowance on candy?” or “When will you be more responsible with your money?” until we are working on the financial piece, too.
When it comes to teaching money management skills to their children, many parents are looking for a magical step-by-step formula, often asking Karen and me if it’s best to use allowances, stickers, chore charts, budgets, or commissions.
Here’s our counsel, right out of Parenting the QBQ Way:
If it works for your family, then it’s a good approach.
There is no “right” way and let’s all stop thinking that there is.
The key, though, is to first know what lessons we want to instill in our children related to money. Down through the years, we identified many simple but important lessons to pass on to the Miller kids. Here they are:
Spend less than you make; it’s simple math.
When it’s gone, it’s gone.
Be in debt to no one, short of owning a home.
Give first to those less fortunate, second to your savings account.
You don’t have to have what others have.
A used automobile will do the job.
Decline those offers for credit, even at your favorite store.
Money comes through working and we were created to work.
Give 110 percent on the job and you’ll always have a job.
Nothing is deserved—everything is earned.
Lessons like these lay a solid foundation of fiscal accountability for our kids. But before a parent attempts to teach them, it’s important to ask The Question Behind the Question (QBQ). Accountable questions like these make all the difference:
“How can I identify the traps I fall into and learn to avoid them?”
“What can I do to acquire new financial management skills?”
“How can I be an outstanding money management example to my children?”
Now that’s practicing what we preach!
Moms, dads … let’s take care of the financial piece
What good—and bad—lessons have you taught your kids about money? We’d love to hear from you below!
And do not miss this one! Young or Old, Entitlement Thinking Stinks