John Karen

John, Karen, three active grandkids—and a 34 year, work-in-progress marriage.


In 1991, eleven years married, Karen said, “John, I’m going to marriage counseling. You coming?!”

I went because this relationship is my most important relationship.

I also hoped counseling would … fix Karen. :-)

Instead, I learned this truth—and have learned it again and again:

I can only change me.

That’s really what personal accountability is about, though difficult to get straight in our heads since most believe accountability is for others.

But relationships are also about me …

Me changing me.

Our QBQ! poll results here reveal relationships are on people’s minds.

Now we just need accountability in our actions.

Who’ve you been trying to fix? How’s that been working for ‘ya?!

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Written to be read in under a minute, JUST99WORDS is a fast and snappy ”mini blog” by QBQ! author, John G. Miller. Sometimes practical, sometimes inspirational—and always worth sending on to colleagues, friends, and family!
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About John G. Miller

John G. Miller is the author of QBQ! The Question Behind the Question, Flipping the Switch: Unleash the Power of Personal Accountability, Outstanding! 47 Ways to Make Your Organization Exceptional and co-author of Parenting the QBQ Way. He is founder of QBQ, Inc., an organizational development firm based in Colorado dedicated to “Helping Organizations Make Personal Accountability a Core Value.” A 1980 graduate of Cornell University, John has been involved in the training and speaking industry since 1986. He lives in Denver, Colorado with his wife, Karen. They have seven children and three grandchildren.

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