Immature vs. Mature Thinking: 3 Common Reactions To This List

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When we posted the content below on our QBQ! Facebook page, it generated a huge response, not to mention an intense reaction. So, I decided to send it to you (and post it on QBQ.com) so that you can comment.

Based on the reality that we are what we think about most often—and how we think drives everything we do and become—we created this list of two types of thoughts.

Here we go …

Immature or Child-like Thinking

I deserve!

I’m entitled!

Pay my bills!

Take care of me!

Do not offend me!

Everything is about me!

Mature or Adult-like Thinking

I must earn.

It’s about others.

Challenge my views.

I will buy my own stuff.

Nobody owes me anything.

I’m accountable for my success.

3 Common Reactions

When people read the material above, they quickly go to one of three places:

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Personal Accountability: Needed Then—and Now

Trust me on this: The old stuff is the good stuff.

QBQ! History

It was 1995 when the cover of this VHS tape was produced. My first “speaker demo video” ever. No laughing, please! Mustaches were in.

That year, I decided to go out QBQ, personal accountability, accountability, trainingand speak on personal accountability. I’d been selling and implementing leadership and sales training for a decade and had conducted more than ten thousand hours of training with clients. This is where I began to notice that people—including me—tend to ask lousy questions beginning with “Why” “When” and “Who” that not only solve no problems but lead us into victim thinking, procrastination, and blame. Bad stuff.

The Original QBQ! Story

Then one Monday morning Jim, a client, phoned and asked to meet. He’d lost his job as vice president of human resources for a telecommunications firm. Over lunch, he shared that while he was on vacation, three of his five-person staff held a meeting with the CEO to complain about how Jim was running the department. When he returned to work that day, the CEO called him in and, with little to no discussion, fired him.

Feeling protective of a guy I liked, I said, “But, Jim, the question is, why didn’t he give you a chance to explain—you know, to defend yourself?” Nodding in solemn and total agreement, he said, “Yes, John, that’s the question.” An hour later …

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Assail! Lie! Smear! Attack! Spin! What Would Jimmy Do With Social Media?

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Social media has been a strange place since the POTUS election. Have you noticed anyone online —

  • Attack a Facebook “friend” or family member over politics?
  • Post a meme, image, or video just to discredit others’ views?
  • Robotically spew biased political party “talking points” rather than engage in calm, reasoned, fact-based dialogue?
  • Pontificate and sermonize instead of asking questions to seek greater understanding?
  • Express ginormous outrage and concern on the behalf of strangers living halfway around the world when there are people in need in our own backyard?

There is no political message in that last question, so please don’t take umbrage. I’m simply baffled by the substantial time and emotional energy expended on social media that could be used differently.

Yes, like you, QBQ, Inc. and the Miller clan believe in compassion. However, is it possible there are people a mile from me who would be greatly blessed if they received just a slice of the concern for humankind expressed on Facebook and Twitter?

Let’s turn to coach, pastor, and politician Jimmy Miller—a man who never touched a computer or smartphone in his life—for a possible answer …

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Personal Accountability: 20 Questions To Determine If It’s Really a Core Value

Our mission at QBQ, Inc. is Making Personal Accountability a Core Value, so this is our question for you:

Is personal accountability a core and guiding value in your world?

Let’s do a quick “needs assessment” for our workplace and ourselves. We’ll begin with the individual—meaning … me. Here we go!

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Quiz #1: The Individual

Ten introspective questions:

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Repeat After Me: “I can only change ______ !”

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If Just ONE …

During this Dave Ramsey Show interview, Dave asked me, “If people only get one idea from QBQ! what do you want it to be?”

I responded, “Well, Dave, it’s this: I can only change … me.”

Some of you right now are thinking, That’s not new, John, not new at all!

Right. But remember what we teach in the QBQ! book:

Repetition is the motor of learning!

So, let’s repeat the truth that I can only change me—a cornerstone of PERSONAL ACCOUNTABILITY—using a story shared by QBQ! reader, Annetta:

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The #1 Problem With Entitlement Thinking

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If I say I’m against “entitlement thinking,” many would cheer. However, if I say I’m against “entitlements,” some would call me mean-spirited.

Most talk around “entitlements” is political, highly charged, and nasty. The minute lawmakers try to reduce any specific “entitlement program,” they are accused of being nothing short of evil.

But, this board member of the Denver Rescue Mission is not evil at all. I just think we need to be aware of “unintended consequences” …

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Formula For Finding Purpose, Passion, Prosperity

Planning a 2017 event? Let a QBQ! speaker help!

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Your future lies ahead!

Are you in a “New Year, New Me” mode? If so, it’s always good to think about where I’ve come from, where I am, and where I want to go. In other words, reflect on my purpose, passions, and how these combined lead to prosperity. 

But let me begin our first 2017 QBQ! QuickNote by describing a nightmare I had the other night …

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Not Nearly As Thankful As I Should Be

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Cereal. We all love cereal. There are “kid” cereals and “adult” cereals—and the truth is adults don’t mind a bowl of Fruit Loops or Captain Crunch now and then, do we? Come on, admit it!

But seriously, when it comes to cereal, do we have amazing choices in America or what?!

You know, I’m not one of those guys who attempts to shame people into feeling thankful for all we have in this country—but I do need to be personally accountable in this area and work on me.

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Accountability and American Role Models

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Note: I did not write this piece from a political view, so let’s not go there. This blog is about responsibility, integrity, leadership, and great parenting. Enjoy!

Politicians Aren’t Our Role Models

“What do we tell the children?” is a question some have asked since the U.S. presidential election. It’s a question that takes me back 18 years.

In 1998, the wall-to-wall news was about President Bill Clinton and a 22-year-old intern named Monica and their Oval Office activities. It was the story, day in, day out. The Miller children werole models-america-parenting-QBQ-personal-accountabilityre 15, 13, 10, and 8 years old.

Impressionable ages, would you agree?

But what I can tell you from the heart is this: The Clinton affair didn’t cause my wife, Karen, and me to wonder what we might tell the kids. Not even for a moment.

Because we’re perfect parents? No. Because of our political party association? No. Because we don’t follow what’s going on in the world or have opinions? Nope!

We didn’t think about it because we’d already come to a parental conclusion, possibly subconsciously since we don’t recall discussing it. Here it is:

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